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Monday, August 20, 2018

Conversations About Yourself


You know these conversations........the one you have in your head and the one's you have with other people that amazingly enough are almost always critical.

Working with clients I have found that people would rather tell you about all their mistakes.......all of their shortcomings......all of their imperfections in conversations about themselves.

Why do you think we have started such a bad habit?

These are some examples of the negative thinking we use on ourselves:


  • When we look in the mirror we look with a critical eye.
  • When we think of the past we almost always look back at what went wrong or what we did wrong.
  • When we talk about ourselves we almost always are negative about our appearance or our circumstances.
  • When we talk about our relationships we almost always talk about what is wrong with them first.


These are habits that can be broken and what a huge and positive beginning when this happens!

Always remember that you are in charge of who you are right now and when you let go of the present negativity along with the past negativity you are creating a journey that is filled with self-love and appreciation.

Here are ways to begin the habit of positive thinking about you and your life: 


  • See everything positive about your appearance. 
  • When a past mistake pops into your head just think blah...blah...blah until it passes. (You may laugh but believe me it works!)
  • When you are talking about your life to someone else make sure it the conversation is about what is going right and the most positive things you can think of.
  • Always remember our relationships are what we think they are and how we speak about them.


Use your powerful thoughts about everything in the positive. When you are thinking about yourself......your life.....your relationships......your career.......your family.......use only the best thoughts. When you do this not only do you lift your spirit and feel better you create more and more of the same things you think about.

Our thoughts have so much energy why not use them for the best and brightest life possible.

It is up to you how you want your thinking habit to go forward........create amazing results by changing it for the better.

Many Blessings to All
Sue


Tuesday, June 5, 2018


Sense of Self


Do you take the time to just find a quiet place and tune into your sense of self? Do you take the time to actually feel who you are and reach the beautiful spirit that makes you sparkle and shine?

Why wouldn’t we want to be in touch with all that we are? It gives us such a boost and a feeling of control if we practice just being.

Most of the time we are involved with thinking and worrying and projecting. This makes life about problems……. the past……and what is going to happen in the future. If we are to live life to the fullest we must let go of this thought process and adapt ourselves to being in the here and now.

When we let negative thoughts take over and control our life then we are not taking care of ourselves the way we should. Negativity is so easy to fall into yet so destructive to our well-being.

What if we grounded ourselves daily with being in the moment…….clearing our mind……..feeling the beauty of self and the force within.

Here are the steps you can take to achieve this sense of self:
  • Find a place you have complete quiet for a few moments.
  • Sit and breathe deeply in and out slowly focusing on each breath in and out.
  • Your mind will clear as you focus on your breathing and this is what you want to happen.
  • Clearing your mind and sitting breathing in and out you are most certainly in the moment.
  • Feel how free you are in mind and body.
  • Feel in the very center of you the divine feeling of your spirit.
  • Pay attention to this feeling as it is your sense of self and who you are.
  • Feel the beauty of self and feel your energy within.
  • Keep your focus on your beautiful energetic spirit for as long as you want to.
  • Breathing in and out and feeling your power you are in the moment without any other thoughts to distract you.


Isn’t it an amazing feeling to be in the moment and not allow any thoughts to intrude on your spirit so that you can feel the power of who you are.

Do this for at least 10 minutes or longer if you wish to. Being centered and feeling so connected is important because then you can be in control of thoughts you wish to have and let go of those you do not.

Why not make a habit of this during the day? You have started the day with a quiet spot and your focus within why not when thoughts tend to overtake you revert right back to that place of being in the moment and not allowing anything to take away the peaceful and joyful way it makes you feel. 

You don’t have to stop and go somewhere quiet as you do when you start the day……..just say to yourself these thoughts are not what I want for myself and take yourself within to your sense of self.

Enjoy your surroundings without any negative thoughts about it ……..just enjoy the beauty you see.

Living life does not mean being you have to be in turmoil……….it means to truly live in the moment and if those moments are those of your choosing by not allowing negative thoughts overtake you life becomes so much more satisfying……..it will change your well-being for the better when you choose to focus on your sense of self and your beautiful spirit.

Many Blessings to All
Sue

Sunday, April 15, 2018

Inner Strength


“It's essential you create a fiery will from within--harness that power of decisiveness--and choose to be your strongest self.” ― Karen Salmansohn

Each one of us has an inner strength.......sometimes we discount it because we allow worry and fear to become a larger factor at times and it seems that negativity is the only situation we find ourselves in. 

Believe me when I tell you that when you are focused on all that is wrong you feel weak and helpless. You are not looking for any positive outcomes but are zeroing in on all that is not right in your life. It is a snowball effect because then you incorporate everything negative about your what is going on with you and your life.

Inner strength is the ability to see what is right.......to see a direction to take or an outcome to take advantage of.

So many times you don't give yourself credit for inner strength.......you discount how many times you have used it........  if you only take a look at your life and remember the times when you took charge worked it all out with a sense of control you will find that more times than not you did have the inner strength to do it.

We all have the voices.......one that says I can and one that says I can't.......the one that says I can has more power because it feels right ........it feels good.......it is the direction to take because when you have this feeling your inner strength is at work. Don't allow the negativity of I can't become a part of who you are because you are so much more than that.

Focus on the times you have worked things out.......made things happen......showed confidence......you have used your inner strength for your greater good many times.

Your inner strength along with a positive outlook brings you solutions if you open your mind. Using both of these will become a habit which empowers you to go through life in a decisive way.

Here are some affirmations that will help you when you need them:


  • "My inner strength is part of who I am and is always there for me to use."
  • "I can be strong and desisive when I need to be."
  • "My inner strength has served me well in my lifetime."
  • "I don't have to be fearful because I have inner strength to help my solve issues."


Love yourself........rely on yourself........know you are in charge of your life. Remember what happens in your life is challenging and an adventure and you can make it the most positive of experiences when you use the world "I can!". 

Many Blessing to All
Sue

Saturday, February 10, 2018

To Be Complete


Just think about this for a moment.........

If you don't love yourself how can you expect someone else to do it for you?

Here are some reason's why we feel we need someone in our lives:


  • To be complete.
  • To not be alone.
  • To fit in with society.
  • To fill a void.
  • To be needed.


These are just a few reasons we have been using over many generations some have been taught and some we have added on our own.

Well here is a big news flash for everyone!

You are already complete........see yourself this way........don't see a fractured person but a beautiful spirit that shines brightly. You are a wonderful person with many qualities that make you unique and special. Don't let your life become complicated by thinking that you need someone to make you a whole person.......you already are so love who you are without reservation or criticism. 

Love your own company........love being on your own doing things that make you feel good. If you love who you are first then you know the feeling and can share love with another......if you fill your life by doing things that bring you joy you find that being on your own is not only uplifting but peaceful.

Don't let anyone mold you into being something or someone you are not........you are special and when you acknowledge this and you recognize your own qualities then you are being true to yourself and this should be first and foremost.......don't live a life that belongs to someone else........live the one that is right for  you.......don't let society dictate your life.

You must be happy within that beautiful spirit of yours.........there is never a void when you fill your life with the things you like to do and surround yourself with people who you enjoy........fill your life with the things that make you happy so you don't have a void.......make a note of things that you enjoy doing and do them.........this is a choice you must make for yourself..... when you do you will find life becomes richer and more fulfilling.

The first need you must meet is to take care of yourself first.......what do you want for yourself.......you cannot and should not make anyone your first priority but you and know true happiness........this sounds selfish but it isn't really........if you are not happy how can anyone around you be happy.......if you are not fulfilled with the things  you want for yourself then joy escapes you. It is not your job to make the world happy .......it is your job to make yourself happy for your greater good.

In this life we have a standard that we must belong in a way that others dictate.......don't believe it......you only have to make yourself happy and do the things that bring you joy in all areas of your life........being a partner or a couple is not mandatory........like yourself enough to be in your own company and not be lonely.

Just picture if you will the world full of people who are not trying to please others........who are making their own lives their priority........who feel blessed and happy with who they are and what they have and what they are doing.........what freedom we would feel each one of us if we only let go of needing someone to make us complete and depended only on liking and loving who we are.

Two ways to look at life:

I love you because I need you.
I need you because I love you.

Be someone who loves themselves first..........who is independent and uses their thoughts in the most positive way........you will attract someone with the same ideas that will compliment you in so many areas of your life.

Many Blessings to All
Sue



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