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Sunday, April 15, 2018

Inner Strength


“It's essential you create a fiery will from within--harness that power of decisiveness--and choose to be your strongest self.” ― Karen Salmansohn

Each one of us has an inner strength.......sometimes we discount it because we allow worry and fear to become a larger factor at times and it seems that negativity is the only situation we find ourselves in. 

Believe me when I tell you that when you are focused on all that is wrong you feel weak and helpless. You are not looking for any positive outcomes but are zeroing in on all that is not right in your life. It is a snowball effect because then you incorporate everything negative about your what is going on with you and your life.

Inner strength is the ability to see what is right.......to see a direction to take or an outcome to take advantage of.

So many times you don't give yourself credit for inner strength.......you discount how many times you have used it........  if you only take a look at your life and remember the times when you took charge worked it all out with a sense of control you will find that more times than not you did have the inner strength to do it.

We all have the voices.......one that says I can and one that says I can't.......the one that says I can has more power because it feels right ........it feels good.......it is the direction to take because when you have this feeling your inner strength is at work. Don't allow the negativity of I can't become a part of who you are because you are so much more than that.

Focus on the times you have worked things out.......made things happen......showed confidence......you have used your inner strength for your greater good many times.

Your inner strength along with a positive outlook brings you solutions if you open your mind. Using both of these will become a habit which empowers you to go through life in a decisive way.

Here are some affirmations that will help you when you need them:


  • "My inner strength is part of who I am and is always there for me to use."
  • "I can be strong and desisive when I need to be."
  • "My inner strength has served me well in my lifetime."
  • "I don't have to be fearful because I have inner strength to help my solve issues."


Love yourself........rely on yourself........know you are in charge of your life. Remember what happens in your life is challenging and an adventure and you can make it the most positive of experiences when you use the world "I can!". 

Many Blessing to All
Sue

Saturday, February 10, 2018

To Be Complete


Just think about this for a moment.........

If you don't love yourself how can you expect someone else to do it for you?

Here are some reason's why we feel we need someone in our lives:


  • To be complete.
  • To not be alone.
  • To fit in with society.
  • To fill a void.
  • To be needed.


These are just a few reasons we have been using over many generations some have been taught and some we have added on our own.

Well here is a big news flash for everyone!

You are already complete........see yourself this way........don't see a fractured person but a beautiful spirit that shines brightly. You are a wonderful person with many qualities that make you unique and special. Don't let your life become complicated by thinking that you need someone to make you a whole person.......you already are so love who you are without reservation or criticism. 

Love your own company........love being on your own doing things that make you feel good. If you love who you are first then you know the feeling and can share love with another......if you fill your life by doing things that bring you joy you find that being on your own is not only uplifting but peaceful.

Don't let anyone mold you into being something or someone you are not........you are special and when you acknowledge this and you recognize your own qualities then you are being true to yourself and this should be first and foremost.......don't live a life that belongs to someone else........live the one that is right for  you.......don't let society dictate your life.

You must be happy within that beautiful spirit of yours.........there is never a void when you fill your life with the things you like to do and surround yourself with people who you enjoy........fill your life with the things that make you happy so you don't have a void.......make a note of things that you enjoy doing and do them.........this is a choice you must make for yourself..... when you do you will find life becomes richer and more fulfilling.

The first need you must meet is to take care of yourself first.......what do you want for yourself.......you cannot and should not make anyone your first priority but you and know true happiness........this sounds selfish but it isn't really........if you are not happy how can anyone around you be happy.......if you are not fulfilled with the things  you want for yourself then joy escapes you. It is not your job to make the world happy .......it is your job to make yourself happy for your greater good.

In this life we have a standard that we must belong in a way that others dictate.......don't believe it......you only have to make yourself happy and do the things that bring you joy in all areas of your life........being a partner or a couple is not mandatory........like yourself enough to be in your own company and not be lonely.

Just picture if you will the world full of people who are not trying to please others........who are making their own lives their priority........who feel blessed and happy with who they are and what they have and what they are doing.........what freedom we would feel each one of us if we only let go of needing someone to make us complete and depended only on liking and loving who we are.

Two ways to look at life:

I love you because I need you.
I need you because I love you.

Be someone who loves themselves first..........who is independent and uses their thoughts in the most positive way........you will attract someone with the same ideas that will compliment you in so many areas of your life.

Many Blessings to All
Sue



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This book can be applied to any age and empower you as you age.

Monday, January 1, 2018

Sense of Self


"What I am looking for is not out there - it is in me." ― Helen Keller

This is a New Year and with it always comes resolutions ………things you feel you need to change to be better.

Why is it we are always looking at the outside of ourselves?

Why do we think that everything has to do with what we look like……. what we have…….where we live……what we do for a living……..all the trappings of life that we beat ourselves up about because we feel we are not up to what should be?

What if we freed ourselves from the habit of these ideas?

What if we decided to let go of anything we have been taught about being and doing and having and made up our own way of doing things?

What if we decided that this was the year to be who we are and do what feels right just for us?

What if we decided not to fit in to a pattern that is made for everyone when we are all so different with different ideas and thoughts?

Be true to yourself always and in this New Year become the person that is happy from the inside……. love who you are and what you think because this is how life becomes the way you wish it to be.

Here are some tips on how you can achieve a great sense of self:

  • Feel your way…….in other words if it doesn’t feel right to you no matter what others say do what does feel right.
  • Don’t say yes when you really don’t want to………. use the word no more often………you will free yourself so much doing this.
  • Put yourself first……..sometimes you may think this is difficult but when you do you will find that life lightens up and you then are ready to do what you need to but at your own pace and in your own time…….the stress of trying to please others constantly does not serve your well-being in the least.
  • Accept who you are……..there is no one else like you………flaws and strengths………love and laughter…….all the things that make up you………don’t wish your life away trying to measure up to anyone else……..you are special and you need to acknowledge this constantly…….don’t expect or need it from anyone else but yourself.
  • Live in the moment and make your moments count……..you have accomplished so much in your life so far ……….focus on those things and expect more and more as you follow your path........be your own cheerleader.
  • Be comfortable in your own skin.......don't try to duplicate someone else's life.......make your own comfortable style and environment to accomodate all that you are.

All of this comes from the inside………all of this comes from a wonderful sense of self………if you are doing this already good for you……..keep it up and make it stronger than ever………if you are not…….start with this new year to form a wonderful sense of self…….from the inside ………..this is where your power lies and can be used every single day if you choose to do it.

Rely on yourself for your own happiness………..don’t fit into a mold someone else thinks you should……..be an individual with great expectations for an adventure that will blossom with every positive thought you can use.

Here is an affirmation to use: “I love who I am and the adventure that is waiting for me.”

May your New Year be all you want it to be and more!

Many Blessings to All
Sue




Sunday, September 3, 2017

  • What is Your Big Picture?

 Have you ever considered that you are the one who has the control over your own big picture? 

Have you ever thought about excluding everyone but yourself from that picture so you can begin to create it the way you would like it to be without any outside interference?

The fact that this is your journey and you are making your way the very best you know how…….why not begin a strategy that brings you what you have in mind for your life.

If you were to close your eyes and bring an image of what would make your life happy what would it be? 

Always remember it is you who must be happy…….no one else can do this for you……happiness starts within ones self.......no person ......place ......or thing can do this for you .....your bright and beautiful spirit must be happy first.

There are many scenarios that you may have that you feel bring happiness:
  • Money
  • Home
  • Relationships
  • Health


These are quite common for everyone but what about a deeper more satisfying feeling about life? 

What about peace and harmony and joy? 

What about grounding ourselves by really appreciating what we do have plus who and what we are?

What if your images that you brought up to create a big picture were those of laughter and joy……..of things that would make your heart happy.

What if you took mental snapshots of your life in all the positive ways you are living and doing things right at the present moment?
What if you appreciated the funds you do have coming to you at the present time and picture them growing larger?


What if you enjoyed everything about the home you have now and focus on all of its attributes while envisioning whereelse you might like to reside.


What if you were thankful about the health you do have at this moment…….for every part of your body that feels good……using your focus to help your body be in the best of health.


Sometimes we get so far ahead of ourselves in what we want in life that we fail to address the fact that we already have so much in material goods and even more importantly daily doses of love.

Sometimes we are so busy looking forward that we don’t live in the moment and those moments then get away from us to enjoy.

This is the time to stop and understand that your big picture is now……it is how you are thinking and feeling and what you do with each moment. These moments are your life.

Remember you are making memories to have along your journey and the most fulfilling are those based on love and joy.

Why not just be……..why not just breathe and be focused on each day ………….why not just clear your mind and then look for the beauty around and within you?

If you are so busy with looking at others……. listening to others…….reacting to others…….then your big picture is not yours is it?

The picture you are creating and the images you bring up in your mind should be of you and no one else……this is how you make the big picture just like you want it to be.

Here are some things you can incorporate when envisioning a big picture:
  • Being yourself.
  • Having your own opinion.
  • Doing what makes you happy.
  • Seeing yourself in the most positive way.
  • Always seeing the best things happening for you.
When you incorporate these things into your big picture you cannot help but find the peace and joy that is truly yours every day……..you start to notice that life is really quite good after all.

Isn’t this everyone’s main goal in life?

Let go of the thought of lacking anything and embrace the thought that there is already so much you do have……..and even more that you can by acknowledging abundance.

Gratitude creates the most beautiful picture of all.

Many Blessings to Everyone!
Sue