Like Yourself First

 February is a month that is all about love. We all want love of course, it is in most relationships we have. It is everywhere, movies, books, in just everyway we can learn about it. It is almost mandatory if we allow it to be. 

What if we lighten up and just like ourselves first.

Think about the person you spend the most time with. It's not your partner, your best friend, or your parents. It's you. If you lived with a roommate you didn't particularly like, you'd move out. But when that roommate is your own mind, the only way forward is to change the relationship from the inside out.

Liking yourself isn't about narcissism: it's about internal harmony and mental health. We often think it is selfish to care more about ourselves than others but the truth is if we don't feel good about who we are then we can't feel good about anyone or anything else.

Just think how freeing it is to focus on all the good things about who you are and keep the spotlight on all the things you like about yourself.

Liking is Different (and Easier) than "Loving"

• Self-Love often feels like a huge abstract destination.
• Self-Likability is about finding small things you enjoy about your personality, your hobbies, or your humor.

One of the major parts of liking yourself is to stop negative self-talk. It creates such chaos in your head. When we continually find fault with ourselves we simply cannot move forward in a positive way. We are stuck feeling bad about who we are and the fact that we have so many more good, positive qualities gets lost in the unhappy way we are seeing who we are.

The fact is we literally treat ourselves worse than we'd ever treat a friend. Just think about that for a moment, the fact is it is so important for you to stop and really care for the beautiful spirit that is who you are.

Here are a couple of things to do to help yourself feel positive:

• Write down three things you actually like about yourself today.
• Have boundaries for yourself when it concerns other people. Say "no" without regret when the circumstance doesn't feel right to you. It is okay not to follow along with anyone or anything that doesn't feel the way it should for your greater good.

Stop dwelling on what you feel you have done wrong, choices that may not be the best, or situations you may have chosen that didn't end up the way you thought they would. Let go of all the guilt it does not deserve the space in your head.

One thing for sure, you are the only person you are guaranteed to be with forever. Remember you don't have to be perfect to be someone you'd want to hang out with.

Many Blessing to All

Sue