Like Yourself First

 February is a month that is all about love. We all want love of course, it is in most relationships we have. It is everywhere, movies, books, in just everyway we can learn about it. It is almost mandatory if we allow it to be. 

What if we lighten up and just like ourselves first.

Think about the person you spend the most time with. It's not your partner, your best friend, or your parents. It's you. If you lived with a roommate you didn't particularly like, you'd move out. But when that roommate is your own mind, the only way forward is to change the relationship from the inside out.

Liking yourself isn't about narcissism: it's about internal harmony and mental health. We often think it is selfish to care more about ourselves than others but the truth is if we don't feel good about who we are then we can't feel good about anyone or anything else.

Just think how freeing it is to focus on all the good things about who you are and keep the spotlight on all the things you like about yourself.

Liking is Different (and Easier) than "Loving"

• Self-Love often feels like a huge abstract destination.
• Self-Likability is about finding small things you enjoy about your personality, your hobbies, or your humor.

One of the major parts of liking yourself is to stop negative self-talk. It creates such chaos in your head. When we continually find fault with ourselves we simply cannot move forward in a positive way. We are stuck feeling bad about who we are and the fact that we have so many more good, positive qualities gets lost in the unhappy way we are seeing who we are.

The fact is we literally treat ourselves worse than we'd ever treat a friend. Just think about that for a moment, the fact is it is so important for you to stop and really care for the beautiful spirit that is who you are.

Here are a couple of things to do to help yourself feel positive:

• Write down three things you actually like about yourself today.
• Have boundaries for yourself when it concerns other people. Say "no" without regret when the circumstance doesn't feel right to you. It is okay not to follow along with anyone or anything that doesn't feel the way it should for your greater good.

Stop dwelling on what you feel you have done wrong, choices that may not be the best, or situations you may have chosen that didn't end up the way you thought they would. Let go of all the guilt it does not deserve the space in your head.

One thing for sure, you are the only person you are guaranteed to be with forever. Remember you don't have to be perfect to be someone you'd want to hang out with.

Many Blessing to All

Sue

Change is Good for the Soul

 Most people find that change is hard but in fact it is only as hard as you make it. You get to choose what you want to change and in making that choice you move forward and help to make your life more the way you want it.

There are always things we can change about ourselves but what changes can you make that will improve who you are, where you are and what you are doing?

• What if you changed your focus to something positive and uplifting?
• What if you changed the way you look at a particular situation?
• What if you changed where you are?
• What if you changed to a more positive outlook?

When we are focused on the negative we not only feel bad but we can't move forward to anything that would help us to be happy because we aren't feeling happy but negative. This negative energy can bring you down to a level that you sometimes can't shake because one negative thought brings another and another and pretty soon you are so weighed down and unhappy it really impedes your ability to get on with life.

I challenge you to sit down and write what positive changes you can make that will help you to feel better and to move forward. 

• Make suggestions as if it is happening already. 
• Be sure you are centered on positive changes and be aware of how those changes would make you feel.
• Let the positive energy  you feel while writing stay with you as an incentive to stay in this mindset.

As you are writing make a list of everything you have to be grateful for right now. What has happened for you that you appreciate. What is going right for you. Gratitude is the best way to really see what is positive in your life.

Change is truly good for the soul. When there is movement in your life, when it starts to flow, change brings a different perspective always, a fresh way to see things, a new horizon for sure.

Many Blessings to All

Sue

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Free Yourself Using Your Thoughts

 

We are so in charge of the direction our thought process take. Just ponder that for a moment and you will realize that one thought follows the other so where are your thoughts taking you and how are they making you feel.

It is a difficult time I know when everything is kind of topsy turvy in the world right now but I would like to have you truly think about what your thoughts are and how they are affecting your well-being and the direction you are going.

We have the choice to zero in on chaos or peace, on love or hate, on joy or sadness. In our lifetime we  have experienced so many happy and lovely times but for some reason we choose to look back at the bad and unhappy ones. 

You really do know how to feel good all of the time just by thinking about good and happy times and feeling what it was like to enjoy life at that moment. Close your eyes, take a deep breath and think about a very happy time you have experienced. That is the feeling that you want for yourself all the time I am sure and it can be very easy to attain if you just keep your thoughts on what is going right in your life and this can be something small but satisfying that brings a feeling of joy.

Keep your thoughts in the best place possible and do not allow yourself to go down a rabbit hole of unhappiness and negativity. Don't tune into anything that would bring your thoughts to a place you don't want to be.

• What if you tuned out anything that would lead you to be negative?
• What if you focused on the most positive thing in your life at this time?
• What if you made a list of all the accomplishments that you have experienced?
•  What if you felt complete peace inside your heart and mind?

Remember thoughts are things so using them to feel good is a start of a very happy and satisfying life. You are in complete control of where your thoughts go so do yourself the greatest favor ever and make a habit of changing every negative thought to a positive one. It does take practice but it is so worth it in the long run.

Be your best by thinking the best thoughts that way you can feel the best. Don't allow anything or anyone to change how you feel about yourself and your life in the most positive and uplifting way.

Many Blessing to All

Sue