Like Yourself First

 February is a month that is all about love. We all want love of course, it is in most relationships we have. It is everywhere, movies, books, in just everyway we can learn about it. It is almost mandatory if we allow it to be. 

What if we lighten up and just like ourselves first.

Think about the person you spend the most time with. It's not your partner, your best friend, or your parents. It's you. If you lived with a roommate you didn't particularly like, you'd move out. But when that roommate is your own mind, the only way forward is to change the relationship from the inside out.

Liking yourself isn't about narcissism: it's about internal harmony and mental health. We often think it is selfish to care more about ourselves than others but the truth is if we don't feel good about who we are then we can't feel good about anyone or anything else.

Just think how freeing it is to focus on all the good things about who you are and keep the spotlight on all the things you like about yourself.

Liking is Different (and Easier) than "Loving"

• Self-Love often feels like a huge abstract destination.
• Self-Likability is about finding small things you enjoy about your personality, your hobbies, or your humor.

One of the major parts of liking yourself is to stop negative self-talk. It creates such chaos in your head. When we continually find fault with ourselves we simply cannot move forward in a positive way. We are stuck feeling bad about who we are and the fact that we have so many more good, positive qualities gets lost in the unhappy way we are seeing who we are.

The fact is we literally treat ourselves worse than we'd ever treat a friend. Just think about that for a moment, the fact is it is so important for you to stop and really care for the beautiful spirit that is who you are.

Here are a couple of things to do to help yourself feel positive:

• Write down three things you actually like about yourself today.
• Have boundaries for yourself when it concerns other people. Say "no" without regret when the circumstance doesn't feel right to you. It is okay not to follow along with anyone or anything that doesn't feel the way it should for your greater good.

Stop dwelling on what you feel you have done wrong, choices that may not be the best, or situations you may have chosen that didn't end up the way you thought they would. Let go of all the guilt it does not deserve the space in your head.

One thing for sure, you are the only person you are guaranteed to be with forever. Remember you don't have to be perfect to be someone you'd want to hang out with.

Many Blessing to All

Sue

Change is Good for the Soul

 Most people find that change is hard but in fact it is only as hard as you make it. You get to choose what you want to change and in making that choice you move forward and help to make your life more the way you want it.

There are always things we can change about ourselves but what changes can you make that will improve who you are, where you are and what you are doing?

• What if you changed your focus to something positive and uplifting?
• What if you changed the way you look at a particular situation?
• What if you changed where you are?
• What if you changed to a more positive outlook?

When we are focused on the negative we not only feel bad but we can't move forward to anything that would help us to be happy because we aren't feeling happy but negative. This negative energy can bring you down to a level that you sometimes can't shake because one negative thought brings another and another and pretty soon you are so weighed down and unhappy it really impedes your ability to get on with life.

I challenge you to sit down and write what positive changes you can make that will help you to feel better and to move forward. 

• Make suggestions as if it is happening already. 
• Be sure you are centered on positive changes and be aware of how those changes would make you feel.
• Let the positive energy  you feel while writing stay with you as an incentive to stay in this mindset.

As you are writing make a list of everything you have to be grateful for right now. What has happened for you that you appreciate. What is going right for you. Gratitude is the best way to really see what is positive in your life.

Change is truly good for the soul. When there is movement in your life, when it starts to flow, change brings a different perspective always, a fresh way to see things, a new horizon for sure.

Many Blessings to All

Sue

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Where is the Positive?

 

I have no explanation as to why it is human nature to focus on the negative. It is amazing to me that most people can tell you what is going wrong for them more often than what is going right. It's weird isn't it that what feels bad comes up first instead of what feels good.

This of course is a habit that many have acquired over a lifetime. It could be a learned behavior from parents or just a loop that we keep repeating over and over. 

• What if we chose to talk about what is going right in our lives?
• What if we made sure our conversations were upbeat and positive?
• What if we chose to focus on feelings that bring us joy?

I would challenge you to sit down and write out what has gone right for you in the last year. If you are going to look back at all look at what turned out well for you. Start writing and look at things that turned out even better than you thought they were going to. 

• Look for positive solutions that came to you. 
• Look for positive relationships you made. 
• Look for anything that brought a positive reaction for you.

By making note of these things you will find that so many positive things come to mind you wonder why you weren't noticing them when they were happening. By recognizing these positives we can be so grateful for them because they did make our life better even if we didn't see it at the time. Gratitude for all of the good that happened in our lives enhances our positive outlook.

Positive thoughts are the basis of a positive life. When we see things more positively we not only feel better but we open the door for more and more positives to come in our lives.

Make this a habit and your whole life will change for the better.

Many Blessing to all 

Sue 

You Are an Artist with your Thoughts

 Your imagination is a powerful tool. Know that if you weren't suppose to use it you wouldn't have one.

Think of yourself as a master artist. You can be thinking about your life in such a beautiful way that the picture you have in your mind about your life in the positive is a major work of art if you allow it to be. 

Using your thoughts to see in your mind's eye the way you would like it to be is like having a master plan. You can see what you want and you can feel the happiness that the picture brings you so how much you put into keeping this work of art alive and thriving is up to you.

You can add people, places and things anytime you want to. You can make the colors and accents beautiful and bright. Just have a bright picture helps you to feel good.

• What if you pictured daily something you would like to have happen?
• What if you focused and then pictured only good things you would feel happy about?
• What if you took those pictures and kept them going constantly replacing them with any negative pictures that may pop in your mind?

Life can be a beautiful thing when you are centered on the positive things that have happened and are happening for you. It is not an easy habit to have but it is so worth the time and effort to see and feel the good things, the things that bring you joy, the things that make you feel happy and to keep those things as constant pictures in your mind.

I challenge you to make the effort to have pictures in your mind that are vibrant and alive with the way you want your journey to be. You can do this just by starting your day with only the best and brightest pictures of what you want to come into your life.

You will be surprised at what shows up!

Many Blessings to All

Sue

Free Yourself Using Your Thoughts

 

We are so in charge of the direction our thought process take. Just ponder that for a moment and you will realize that one thought follows the other so where are your thoughts taking you and how are they making you feel.

It is a difficult time I know when everything is kind of topsy turvy in the world right now but I would like to have you truly think about what your thoughts are and how they are affecting your well-being and the direction you are going.

We have the choice to zero in on chaos or peace, on love or hate, on joy or sadness. In our lifetime we  have experienced so many happy and lovely times but for some reason we choose to look back at the bad and unhappy ones. 

You really do know how to feel good all of the time just by thinking about good and happy times and feeling what it was like to enjoy life at that moment. Close your eyes, take a deep breath and think about a very happy time you have experienced. That is the feeling that you want for yourself all the time I am sure and it can be very easy to attain if you just keep your thoughts on what is going right in your life and this can be something small but satisfying that brings a feeling of joy.

Keep your thoughts in the best place possible and do not allow yourself to go down a rabbit hole of unhappiness and negativity. Don't tune into anything that would bring your thoughts to a place you don't want to be.

• What if you tuned out anything that would lead you to be negative?
• What if you focused on the most positive thing in your life at this time?
• What if you made a list of all the accomplishments that you have experienced?
•  What if you felt complete peace inside your heart and mind?

Remember thoughts are things so using them to feel good is a start of a very happy and satisfying life. You are in complete control of where your thoughts go so do yourself the greatest favor ever and make a habit of changing every negative thought to a positive one. It does take practice but it is so worth it in the long run.

Be your best by thinking the best thoughts that way you can feel the best. Don't allow anything or anyone to change how you feel about yourself and your life in the most positive and uplifting way.

Many Blessing to All

Sue

A Kind Thought

 How many times have we seen a person or a situation that the first thought about them or it was unkind?

It is a habit for most of us to be critical first of everything. We have all had to practice long and hard to become so cynical and hard. It makes for the energy around us and around everyone so unhappy.

• What if we all decided to see one good thing about a person around us and let the criticism go?
• What if we looked at situations with a more positive spin on them?
• What if we broke the habit of being so cynical and unkind we heal our bruised hearts?

No one is ever happy that is critical constantly of life and everyone living in it. No person ever moves forward in a positive frame of mind by being cynical.

I challenge you all to break any habit that contains thoughts of being unkind and critical. It will make a difference in your life you won't believe.

Many Blessings to All 

Sue

Thoughts about Yourself

 There are always two ways to think about ourselves:

We can find fault with everything about ourselves and our life as it is.  

We can focus on the positive things about who we are and what we have accomplished.

I don't know why it is we choose to be so critical of who we are and where we are but for some reason it is human nature to have this habit. It is really up to us to change the way we think about ourselves and our lives.

• What if we chose to make a list of everything we have accomplished?
• What if we focused on our abilities?
• What if we focused on our strong points?

Sometimes it is better if we literally write down all the things that are great about ourselves. Everyone has so many good qualities if we just pay attention to them.

We must let go of the mistakes we feel we have made, the bad choices, the wrong path we may have taken. These are not where are focus should be because we are still going forward and still living so there is something positive about our lives.

Give yourself the credit you deserve and if you need to sit down every day and write down what you have accomplished, what positive things you had happen, and what you as a person excelled at. I am not talking just major things, I am talking about getting chores done, making conversation, being a friend, there are so many things when you start a list that will surprise you about yourself.

Take the time to focus on every positive thing about yourself and your life so that this becomes a great habit to continue.

Many Blessing to All

Sue

Ordinary Thoughts

 Ordinary: with no special or distinctive features; normal.

I don't think that any of us have ordinary thoughts. We are too creative and imaginative to have such bland thoughts. 

In fact our thoughts are really extraordinary. 

Extraordinary: very unusual or remarkable.

The reason I say this is because with our imagination we see our lives with distinctive features and we do have special thoughts about everything.

When we actually focus our thoughts on the things we would like to have happen for us that makes them so powerful. If we stay in a positive frame of mind and see just how life would be and feel the good feelings those thoughts bring to us this makes what we think extraordinary.

• What if you imagined your life the way you would like it to be and just held those thoughts and feelings in your imagination?
• What if you made your focus on yourself with thoughts of wonderful experiences ahead?
• What if you stopped seeing life in the negative and zeroed in on all that positive things possible for you?

It is up to you how you use your thoughts but I would recommend using them to your advantage by seeing and feeling great things for yourself.

Many Blessing to All

Sue

Your Power

 Power: the ability to do something or act in a particular way, especially as a faculty or quality.

Most of us don't feel very powerful. We look at ourselves and our lives and we think there are so many other people who have more power than we do. That may be true in their own lives but in our own personal space we have all the power and we fail to use it for our greater good because we are always looking somewhere else for it.

Your power comes from within. It is linked to your thoughts and feelings about every single thing in your life. 

If you are using your thoughts to bring up the positive feelings you want to feel, good for you because that is the secret to it all.

When we think the most positive thoughts about ourselves this gives us the power to feel good about who we are. If we find all the positive things about our appearance, our personality, our abilities, we then have power to envision the best things in our lives.

If you are in a negative train of thought you can feel it. It is like a dim lightbulb that has the ability to shine brightly but needs to be turned up to do so. Negative thinking never ever brings good things to us because there is no power there. When you feel the negativity taking over tell yourself: "These negative thoughts are not for me, I want better thoughts and feelings for my greater good!"

The more positive you think and feel the more power you give yourself to move forward in a direction that not only suits you but brings you the joy in life you deserve.

Many Blessings to All

Sue

Consideration

 Consideration: careful thought, typically over a period of time.

I think the key words here are careful thought.

How many of us take the time to think about what we are going to say before we say it? I bet if each of us would consider our words first the world might just be a better place.

• What if we considered other people's feelings?
• What if we took the time to think about what it might mean to someone else if we were more considerate?
• What if we were kinder and more compassionate about people and their circumstances or lifestyle?

Life could be so much easier and much more joyful if people thought before they spoke on so many levels.

We as humans would feel better too. A person cannot feel good about themselves or their lives when they are belittling or criticizing everyone and everything. There is just no way that it can feel good to be constantly using negative words and thoughts towards others.

I would challenge everyone to make your words count for something kind, considerate, and pleasant.

Many Blessings to All

Sue

One Positive Thought After Another

 Positive thoughts are sometimes hard to come by but you always have them stored in your mind somewhere the secret is to use them to your advantage.

There have been many times in your life when positive things have happened for you so those positive experiences are a part of your mind set you just have to bring them up and remember how great it was to think and feel positive.

• What if you decided to focus on the good things that have happened to you in your life?
• What if you decided to appreciate life with a very positive mind set?
• What if you remembered all the things you have accomplished both big and small in this life?

Believe me when I tell you that once you start thinking positive thoughts about yourself and your life, one positive thought after another keeps coming to show you, that when you are in this frame of mind more and more positive things happen for you.

Your beautiful spirit will be incredibly happy to feel so uplifted and happy.

Many Blessing to All

Sue

The Journey

 “The beautiful journey of today can only begin when we learn to let go of yesterday.”
― Steve Maraboli, Unapologetically You: Reflections on Life and the Human Experience

The journey we take is uniquely our own. No one else has the same one. It is comprised of so many things but the most important one are the choices we make.

One of  greatest choices is letting go of what was even if it was just yesterday. Looking backwards does not help us to move forward. 

Each day can be beautiful if we don't get dragged down by all the yesterday's we keep revisiting.

• What if you decided each day was a new adventure?
• What if you let go of everything cluttering your mind from the past?
• What if you decided to change your thought process to live in the now?

It is strictly up to you where you let your thoughts lead you. Just say to yourself "I am changing my thought process to live each day to fullest."

Many Blessings to All

Sue

Admiring Oneself

 “You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.”― Sharon Salzberg

Isn't it funny that we admire everything about everyone else but ourselves. We see famous people and want to look and act like them and would copy them if we could.

• What if we took the time to admire our self? 
• What if we really looked at the best parts of what we look like?
• What if we focused on all of our good points?

Some of us resemble each other but no one looks like we do. This is a gift of course and we should be happy about it but most of the time we find fault because we would rather look like someone else.

I would challenge you today to find all of the positive and beautiful things about you. You can start on the inside and work your way out.

Your spirit is the most beautiful and amazing thing about you. Give it a boost by loving yourself today.

Feel the joy of seeing the positive in the way you look and you are on your way to enhancing all that you are.

Many Blessings to All

Sue

Let's Live This Life!

“May you live every day of your life.” ― Jonathan Swift

Make it a point when you wake up each morning to remind yourself to live for the day. 

Make sure you notice everything that makes you smile, that makes you feel good, that is uplifting and joyful.

Too many times we wake up complaining about so many things so we start the day in a negative state of mind. How can we possibly feel good with negative conversation floating around?

Why would we do that to ourselves when there are so many things to help us feel good about our lives, ourselves, and the world.

Know this:

• There are many more good people in the world than bad.
• There are so many people doing good works and helping others than are not.
• There is so much to be thankful for.
• There is so many reasons to feel joy if we allow it.

Start the habit each day of finding something to be grateful for and you will know joy right away. Build your day around the best not the worst. That is what living is all about so make the choice to live life to the fullest with the most positive attitude possible.

Stop watching and reading the news and look for others who are really enjoying life.......they do exist you know.

Many Blessing to All

Sue

Love Who You Are

“Accept yourself, love yourself, and keep moving forward. If you want to fly, you have to give up what weighs you down.” ― Roy T. Bennett, The Light in the Heart

The only way to move forward in the most positive way is to love who you are. When you begin to focus on all of your good qualities, all of your accomplishments, you can then feel hope which makes your life the adventure it is suppose to be.

Do yourself an favor and be kind to yourself, let yourself be the person you are meant to be just by letting go of anything that weighs you down. 

• Let go of any negative thoughts you have about yourself.
• Give yourself credit for all you have accomplished so far.
• Allow yourself to clear you mind of anything you have carried around that hurts your beautiful spirit.

This journey is yours to take ......... why not begin with the foundation of self love.

Many Blessings to All

Sue

The Freedom of Thought

It is amazing that we can think whatever we want to think and no one can stop us. We get to use one thought after the other so easily and this begs the question: 

How are you using your thoughts?

• Some people use their thoughts to live in the past.
• Some people use their thoughts to stay angry at something or someone.
• Some people use their thoughts to be sad and unhappy.
• Some people use their thoughts to see a bright future ahead.
• Some people use their thoughts to find the positive's in life.
• Some people use their thoughts to just feel good about themselves.

There are so many different scenarios to choose from but from those you read above which ones make you feel the best?

Choose your thoughts carefully because they truly determine how you feel. Make sure that what you think helps you to feel the best you possibly can.

It is easy to slip into a negative thought pattern but we must be aware of where that takes us and change the negative to the positive. 

It can be done if you make a habit of saying to yourself  "This is not what I want to think about." Then flip the switch and bring up thoughts of the things that help you to feel good.

Try to stay in a thought pattern that helps you to move forward with hope and peace. That pattern is there if you choose to use it.

Many Blessings to All

Sue

You Are Important!

Each person on this planet is one of a kind. There is no one person who is exactly alike. 

How great is that!

Each person is special with their own thoughts and feelings, their own way to live life and be who they are. 

• Take the time today to look at yourself in the most positive light.
• Take the time to realize that there is no one better than you are.
• Take the time to focus on all of the one of a kind aspects of yourself and your personality.

Celebrate everything good about you because there are so many facets of you that are outstanding.

We spend too much time finding fault with ourselves so I would challenge you today to do the opposite and start focusing on everything that is special about you.

Many Blessing to All

Sue