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Tuesday, October 22, 2019

Being Unhappy

Being Unhappy


Unhappiness can become a habit. We embrace it like we want it and can't live without it. Why is that do you suppose? Why do you think we talk about unhappy situations which in turn keeps them alive and well in our hearts and mind? What is it about being unhappy that could possibly make us thrive?

One of the reasons we would like to stay in this paticular time and place of unhappiness is that we are afraid to move forward. We don't want a change in our lives or we can't seem to figure out which change we want. It also shows us that we want everything to change and be the way we want it to be instead of it being as it should be.

I would ask you why you would want to hug close to you an unhappy event or situation that is certainly not doing your beautiful spirit any good and not allowing you to live a life that is centered around you and what you want sothat you can be happy.

Are you clinging to the past? Are you not letting go of a time when you thought it was the best time of your life? I would say this to you.......how do you know it is the best time of your life if you stopped allowing good times to happen for you because you are stuck in a time warp and not able to have new experiences that could show you just how great life can be?

Are you unhappy in your present circumstances and being unhappy you only focus on what is wrong and what you you don't like thus not allowing for solutions or ways to move forward happen for you?

When our focus in on total unhappiness........when we are stuck talking about the same old issue......when we are lost in what was......when we can't see any hope for what is ahead we are in a holding pattern of sheer negativity that is costing us the joyful and happy experience of life. If you pay close attention you will see that the same things you are unhappy about keep coming into your life because that is all your focus is.

How many days......months......years......has this cost you? How many days and nights of feeling bad.....being surrounded by such dismal ideas and thoughts.?

I would challenge you today to start on a new path of thinking. One that centers on caring for yourself....... by looking around you and inside of you and seeing the beauty. Making a point of noticing everything that brings you a good feeling.......everything that has been there but you have not paid attention to. 

Let your idea of life become wanting to see the positive........let your thoughts and feelings be on what is right about you and your life......most of all stop the loop of negativity and begin a new and positive train of thought.

Love yourself enough to understand that each moment in our lives is precious and should be lived in beauty and love......love of life.....love of self......be ready to move forward for your greater good. 

Watch as you let go of unhappiness and are ready for new horizons which appear quickly and with ease because you are allowing the positive and happy to be dominant in your thoughts and feelings.

Many Blessings to All
Sue

Sunday, May 5, 2019

Worry is a Thief


When we allow worry to consume our lives we are cheating ourselves of any quality of life. We are letting it steal our well-being .......our comfort......our peace of mind.

When our focus is on problems of any kind whether present or those we perceive to be coming we are using all of our energy in such a negative way it is impossible to feel good.

There are so many reasons to remember why we don't need to worry and we should also realize that by worrying we are bringing more of the same because this is where our focus is so positive things can't make their way through.

Here are a few things to focus on instead of worry:

  • Solutions.
  • Remembering times when everything worked out.
  • All the positives you have going right now.
  • Stop trying to control everything.
  • Perfection is a health hazard.
  • See your life in the best possible light.


When you focus on the positive and what solutions are possible you open your heart and mind to new ideas and new ways to figure anything out. Once you start doing this ideas come forward and they just tumble one over the other. It is also a way to lift your spirits and see a brighter path.

In your lifetime you have overcome many things. Take the time to remember how things worked out for you in the past. When you are doing this remember the times they worked out even better than you expected and in a totally different way which was how they were suppose to be instead of what you wanted them to be. Expect the solution but don't try to force it.

Focus on what is going right in your life. For whatever reason we have a habit of zeroing in on the negative which fuels worry and fear. Let go of this focus and turn it to what is positive about who you are and where you are and what you are doing. You will find there is much more of those things if you look for them.

Stop trying to control every situation. If you do and allow things to just flow the answers you are looking for will appear......the solutions you are seeking will materialize.......you will see progress in a positive way when you just give it all up and trust that it is going to work out. When you try to control it you are giving only one way for to be solved.....let to and just let it work the way it should......it takes the stress out of it doesn't it.

Being perfect is so tiring......it is really not natural. We are all imperfect people so just run with that. Being all things to all people has to go along with trying to make everything perfect all of the time. Life is just not this way ........let it be as it is and let yourself be.......this is the greatest gift you can give to you and everyone around you.

Visualize your life in a way that is beautiful.......recognize the beauty in it right now.......make your conversations about what you want......how you want it......see these things daily.......you will find that you have a treasure trove of these thoughts stored inside of you.......see and feel them.......believe me if we weren't suppose to use our imagination we wouldn't have one in the first place. Use this as a springboard for the days ahead.....appreciating what is already gone right in your life and seeing in your mind's eye what you want ahead makes for an amazing experience called life.

This is about you so make it that way......you are either sinking into a very unhappy place with the negativity of worry and fear the joy of life being stolen from you........or you are in charge of seeing life in a brighter and more meaningful way by seeing all the positives behind you ......in the now.......and in the days ahead.

Your thoughts are your power ........use them wisely.

Many Blessing to All
Sue

Sunday, April 21, 2019

The Beauty in Life


There are so many things in life that make it beautiful. Life is a gift to be enjoyed .......to be lived in a happy and content manner. We as humans tend to complicate it much more that we should. 

I would challenge you to start looking for the beauty in your life. Once you start you will be amazed at what you find and how you feel.

What if you began by looking at nature all around you. There in itself is unbelievable beauty if we take the time to really pay attention. 

  • Plants
  • Animals
  • Trees
  • Birds
  • Flowers
The list is endless if we just look and admire.

When you are taking in all the beauty of nature breathe in and out and relax.......let the experience not only uplift you but relax you.......how beautiful is that. What if we let go of noticing what was wrong with our surroundings and honed in on what was right. Negativity would never overcome beauty if we did this.

What if you looked inside at all of your wonderful attributes.

  • Love
  • Kindness
  • Compassion
  • Joy
  • Peace
  • Humor
These are a foundation of beauty if you shine the light on them and use them daily......how fulfilling is that. What if we stopped be hard on ourselves and finding fault within.
Negativity about who we are would cease and life would be brighter.



What if you looked for the beauty in others. Just one positive thing about a person makes a difference.

  • Their smile
  • Their laugh
  • Their unique personality.
These are a cornerstone to sharing joy.



What if we stopped judging others.......we have no idea what is going on in their lives. Everyone has the right to live life as they wish and they should as we are all snowflakes on of a kind.

Letting go of negative thoughts of others would start a world wide change.

If you stop watching the news and let go of the need to know all that is going on you will find your thought process makes a change for the better. If you are searching for news try to find all of the positive things that are going on in your town.....your state......your country.....the world. There is so much more good going on than bad......change your focus so that you can see the beauty in the world. Find the stories of people helping each other......the planet......any story that shows compassion and kindness. You will find that when you start looking there are far more good stories than bad......it changes your mindset to know so much good is going on around you.

What if you lived each moment looking for the beauty in life. Wouldn't it make each day an adventure.

We can choose our path in life and we do by using our thoughts and feelings. Making a habit of seeing beauty everywhere is a way to not only be happier but to make each day bright and uplifting for our greater good.

May you all practice finding the beauty in your life for there is so much to see.

Many Blessing to All
Sue

If you would like a daily positive idea go to my Facebook page "It's Not About Age It's About Attitude"  I post everyday something daily I hope helps everyone use their thoughts wisely.

Saturday, March 23, 2019

It's All About You


It is strictly human nature to think that we need so many things in our lives to be happy. We seem to constantly search for those things to fill our lives with what we think we need for this to become reality for us.

Here is the rub of it all .........how can we add to our lives when happiness does not exist inside of us right here and now.

If we think that we need things or people to be happy there is not the foundation of happiness to build on yet. It really has to start within us and radiate out not begin on the outside and work its way in.

If we are saying to ourselves if only I had:


  • A relationship.
  • A new car.
  • More money.
  • A better job.
  • A better place to live.
  • And so on.........


If we do not have joy inside of us......if we cannot find peace and happiness by our just being ourselves and seeing the beauty and the most positive things about our lives ........how can we ever find it by adding more people......things......places?

All of the things we add we would expect joy from and this is not fair to those people.....places.....and things  because our mindset would be the same before they were part of our lives as happiness only comes from inside......from self.....from finding the joy in everything that already exists for us and using those things as a focal point to really feel happy.

It never works to add to our lives when we do not know the joy of who we are and what we already have.

By learning to depend on ourselves for care it opens a whole new world for us. When we stop finding fault with who we are........when we understand that we do have a beautiful spirit which depends on us finding the happiness in our lives by allowing it to shine from the inside and go forward with the knowledge that we are in fact finding all of the things in life and ourselves that are positive a foundation does in fact begin to build.

When we stop limiting ourselves by seeing only what we feel we don't have......what is missing.......these thoughts only bring unhappiness and also bring a pattern of constant negativity that hurts our spirit and does not allow us to go forward but truly holds us in the same spot like a hamster on a wheel repeating the same unhappy experiences all of the time.....using the same idea over and over that if there were more we would enjoy life......when in reality we must be content in the moment and get off of the wheel and appreciate all that is right in our lives......then we move forward and things do change for the better just by changing the thought pattern to positive.

If we do not love ourselves first.......if we do not believe we are worthy of good things......then we are defeating our own happiness. 

Believe in yourself........see every good thing about you.......shine a light on all of your wonderful traits........your accomplishments.........your personality........all that is you.

Life is so much easier when we define our own happiness.......when we find all the things to be happy about and build on those......when we let go of the thought of lack of anything and enjoy what is plentiful and around us right now.

Be your own best friend.......be all that you are in a way that brings out the best thoughts and feelings about you and your life and the life around you.

See the good everywhere and keep that pathway open to more and more of the same coming to you. The more your intent is to see what is positive in your life the more positive things come to you.

It is all about you and you must be the focus of your own happiness by acknowledging what you do have......that you are special......that life is good.

Many Blessings to All
Sue

Saturday, March 2, 2019




We all shine in our own way and this is how it is suppose to be......we all have our own special light which is amazing when you think about it.....be who you are......do what you do without apology or regret......live life to the fullest and let your light shine for the world......here is an affirmation for today: "I am one of a kind with a bright light that shines beautifully."

Monday, February 18, 2019

The One and Only You


In this New Year there are many resolutions being made as always........we all want to be different and make our lives better than they were last year. Most of these resolutions are about finances or body shape or relationships.

The definition of resolute is: being admirably purposeful, determined, and unwavering.

What if we instead used this same definition to just being ourselves.......believing in who we are......loving our quircky and wonderful personality.......being comfortable in our own skin.......living life in a joyful and peaceful way.

What if we chose to be the unique spirit we are........one different from everyone else with a journey all our own.

What if .........this is most important......we chose to be like no one else.......to not fit into a mold......to not go down the same path that others deem the way to go .........to find our way by using the internal compass we have to monitor the things that feel right to us.

In our lives there are certain choices we make and these choices are paramount to what we have and what we are living. Let's not let anyone else dictate what we do.......the path we follow......the ideas we have.

Be proud of who you are.......you have every right to think for yourself.......to grow in a direction that suits you........to do what you have a passion for........to go with what drives you forward.

Each and every one of us has passion and drive and thank heavens it is not the same thing because nothing else would every get done in this world.

Be the bright spirit you are and do what makes you feel good......what feels right for you.......what brings you joy.

Life is so much simpler and happy when you break away from a mold.......when you use your own thoughts.........when you let your life flow in the direction it should go.

Make your resolution about you in a way that is powerful and uplifting not because you are following the guidelines of life set by others.

Here is an affirmation: "My life is my own to follow the direction I see fit for myself."

Many Blessing to All
Sue


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Tuesday, December 18, 2018

Centering Yourself


It is the time of year where we are all in a hurry one way or another. Everything needs to be done or get finished at a breakneck speed it seems.

We are also at the end of another year and waiting for a new one to begin. On that thought let's do something for ourselves in anticipation of the New Year.

If you would take the time to just sit in a quiet space and allow yourself to slow down in mind and body. 

Here is some help in doing just that:

  • Breathe in a out slowly and methodically.
  • Pay attention to the breaths you take in and those you let out.
  • As you pay attention to your breathing you begin to relax......you can actually feel your muscles doing just that.
  • By putting all your attention on your breathing you find your mind empties when you breathe in and you relax because all the tension leaves with every breath you breathe out.
  • Now use your attention to find the very center of you and feel it.
  • As you feel it you find your balance.........you feel in control.
  • Let this feeling get stronger and stronger.
  • This is the pure center of who you are.


This is centering yourself mind and body to help bring the most positive and calm presence of self you can. It feels good and can be done anytime you need to.

When you feel this wonderful sense of self and control use it for your greater good to bring in the most positive thoughts about the time remaining in this year and especially for the upcoming year. 


  • Instead of bracing yourself for the worst brace yourself for the best.
  • Turn off the news and let go of any other source that does not help you to maintain a positive outlook.
  • Make your personal space a haven for peace and optimism.
  • Don't take on anyone else's negative attitude.


You are in charge of your own happiness.......it comes from within.

See life in the best light and know that by doing this you are forging a path of pure joy.

Here is an affirmation for this: "I am creating a life that suits my happiness."

Many Blessing to All
Sue

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Sunday, November 4, 2018

Who Says?


Are you allowing others control your life by trying to fit in by acting like everyone else?

Are you giving up the very core of yourself by not being true to who you really are because you are afraid you are not going to be accepted by those who think life should be a certain way?

Are you living a life you have been taught to live and by doing this living someone else's idea of how your journey should be?

First of all you must understand that each of us is unique. We have our own thought process and our own vivid imagination which if we weren't suppose to live a life of our own we wouldn't have. 

This is truly amazing you know.......each of us like a snowflake that has no duplicate.

We can be whoever we want to be.......do what feels right to us........live anyway we choose if we decide that we don't want to be a copy but truly want to be an original.

So the just of the matter is this:


  • Who says you can 't be whatever you wish to be?
  • Who says you can't achieve the things you want for yourself?
  • Who says you must act a certain way?
  • Who says you must believe a certain way?
  • Who says you must fit in with everyone else?
  • Who says everyone must be the same......think the same........feel the same?


It simply is a matter of following or being a free thinker.

You can listen to others tell you how to live and what to think or you can be the wonderful spirit that you are and follow where your thoughts and feelings lead you.

If you are a follower then you are allowing another person's thoughts and ideas to shape your life. Be aware of what you are being told and if it doesn't feel right then it is not right for you.

Don't be swayed by fear or anger.......they are negative faiths. 

This is about you and what you feel about any and all things about yourself and your life.

Be the one who stands for themselves remember it is you who is in control of how you think and feel and you most certainly have the strength to live life in the manner which suits you.

Many Blessings to all!
Sue

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