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Saturday, September 5, 2020

The Art of Gratitude

To be grateful means to be thankful, to appreciate. 

I know that during these times it may be more difficult to feel gratitude but in order to make our lives make sense in a more positive way we must use our thoughts and feelings to see what we have to be grateful for......what we appreciate about our lives ........about ourselves. 

Practicing gratitude is the highest form of positive thinking there is. By finding the things in our lives to be grateful appreciating the good things we begin to see life in a way that brings us the peace and joy we do want for ourselves.

When we are at our lowest point it is because we are looking for and finding things that are not going well.......we tune into the negative and soon that is all we are looking at and talking about. How can we possibly feel good when we are pointing out to ourselves what is wrong......what is an obstacle.......what makes us unhappy.

In order to feel that our life has order to feel good about the moments we are living ......we must make sure that we are using our thoughts to find the good within us and around us. It is certainly there we just need to tap into shine a light on make sure that we find the positive about everything we can.

Use your personal space.......whatever that might mean to you.......this space is a place for you to really sit and appreciate things in your life.......things about yourself. Do not bring anything or anyone else's energy into your space.......this is very important......if you are in fact appreciating things........ make them things that are about you ........what you have......what you have accomplished. When you start doing this your life begins to show you what you have far you have come.......that you as a person are valuable to so many.

If you just sit and make a list of things you are grateful for.......things you appreciate you will find that once you start the list get longer and longer. Once you have written them down you can read them and add to them daily. Reaffirming and adding are great tools to keep the positive things in your life real and important.

Here are some examples of how you can design a list things to be grateful for. Remember this is your are the artist of the picture you create with everything you are grateful for.

Start with the very simple because there are so many of these. Once you start to recognize how many smaller.....simpler things there are it is easy to notice the bigger things later.

  • I am grateful for this space that is my very own.
  • I am grateful I woke up this morning.
  • I am grateful for the sunshine.

  • I appreciate my personality.
  • I appreciate my hobby.
  • I appreciate my friendships.

Gratitude is the foundation of joy. It is the springboard of feeling good. When you truly see how much you do have to be grateful for no matter your circumstances you change the direction of your thoughts which then really does change the direction your journey and where it takes you.

Everyone has different lives and different issues but there is one thing that is certain there is always something to be grateful for.

Many Blessings to All


Wednesday, August 5, 2020

Live in the Moment

One Day at a Time.......

Yesterday is gone.......tomorrow hasn't come yet. Each day should be celebrated as the gift it is.

Life is a series of moments that become days.......days become weeks.......weeks become years.

When you live day to day life becomes richer and more makes the weeks and then the years more fulfilling. Just one day at a time brings so much more to this journey we are on.

The first thing to pay attention to each day is the direction your thoughts are taking. This is of utmost importance because it determines your well-being. If your thoughts are headed in a negative direction you should take note and find a way to turn them around to the positive. If you are to care for yourself properly this is a must.

I realize that this may feel like a stressful time for everyone but your mindset is paramount to how you cope and how you function. May sure to care for yourself enough to have thoughts that are the best they can be for your greater good.

Turn off the news.......stop surfing the net about the crisis. This is a negative presence that you do not need. How can you possibly feel good when there is conflicting stories constantly. This does not help you to find a positive train of thought so be in control of what you bring into your home and your thought process.

Look around you and find things that make you feel good. You have many things to appreciate in your life right now but negative thoughts prevent you from seeing them because you are tuned into things that upset you.

Find things to do that bring a sense of fun and joy. Be active in having fun even though it may be limited in some ways you will feel so much better doing things that bring a smile or a laugh.

Don't allow yourself to be defeated by negativity. It is only your frame of mind that will defeat you. There are so many things to be thankful for and when you focus on those you find that hope and love become a foundation to build on.

Be your own thought machine. Don't allow anyone to influence how you are thinking. Find the things that bring you peace and focus on those.

Remember all the times you hit a rough patch in your life and when you came through it things were better than you thought they would be.

You have the strength because you have known adversity before. You have the courage because you are still here making your way. Build on these two tools that you have used in your life before and know that there is always a new path to take ........ a new adventure to yourself and use your power of thought to help you find the most positive direction to focus on.

You've got this!

Many Blessings to All

Sunday, March 1, 2020

The difference between Negative and Positive

Pay close attention to the particular thoughts you use to deprive yourself of happiness - Byron Katie
There are the two choices we have in our thought process. One can make life beautiful while the other stops us completely from being happy.

How are you using your train of thought? Does it drag you down where you don't see any light ahead? Are you finding that your life does not know joy? Think for a moment where your thoughts have been leading you. What have you been thinking about?

  • Are you living in the past?
  • Are you worried about something?
  • Are you fearful?
  • Are you angry?

One of the first things I will tell you is to jet right out of yesterday. It serves no purpose because we can't do it over and to stay in the past is so counterproductive to your happiness.There are so many things to live in the present many things we can experience that will help us to overcome whatever it was we keep thinking about which keeps us looking backwards when we really want to go forward........something we can do if we allow the present moment to be our focus.

If worry is consuming you then you are projecting something that may not even happen. You are not allowing answers or solutions because you are centered on a feeling of hopelessness that when your thoughts are set there will make your days so unhappy.

If you are fearful this too brings such feelings that blot out any chance of enjoying your life in ways that will help you to be happy. Help yourself by letting go of being afraid so you can go forward with a sense of peace.

If you are angry you put yourself in a state of unhappiness which prevents you from seeing life in a clear way. You are focused on feeling a negative way to look at life. You are worked up and not calm so that you truly feel unbalanced.

  • Why do you suppose we choose these negative emotions which cloud our everyday living when we have an alternative?
  • Why would we do this to our mind and body as these negative emotions take a toll on our health and well-being?

Positive thoughts are a choice. They take practice and a willingness to see life in the best way possible.
  • What if you decided that for your greater good you would at least try to practice thinking in a more positive light?
  • What if you decided to let go of all of the negative thoughts and feelings you have about your life?
  • What if you decided to live each day as it comes without expecting anything negative and you welcome the positive?
One of the first things to do is to really pay attention to what is going on in your life and how much you have to be grateful for. Once you start paying attention to what is right around you..... that is good........ you will be amazed at how much you have and how many positive things are going on in your life.

When you pay attention to the positive it is like a light switch going is like you have a weight lifted......there are so many things in life that are good.....that are right.....that are attention to those for there lies the happiness you have been missing.

Stop practicing hurts your beautiful spirit does not allow you to live your life to the certainly does not allow more positive things in your life.

Be all you can be in the most positive frame of mind. Try this and see if life doesn't change in ways that will show you just how important positive thoughts are.

Many Blessing to All

Wednesday, January 1, 2020

Using a Different Frame of Mind for the New Year

Happy 2020!

I would challenge you to start the New Year in a whole different frame of mind. Instead of looking at what you perceive as your faults.......your imperfections which you feel need an overhaul......try beginning the new year a whole new way.

First of all why would we want to start a new year finding fault with ourselves? Why would we look for all the negative things we think there are about who we are and try to fix them when there are so many wonderful qualities about ourselves we should enhance?

I will tell you now that there are more positives about you than you give yourself credit for. There are many more things going right for you than are not. Life is a beautiful thing when we are present in the moment finding all the things that are right about ourselves and what is going on all around us.

So instead of making a list of resolutions in which you think you need improvement I would challenge you to make a list of all of the things in the past year that worked out for you. 

I would challenge you to add to this list all of the things that are right about you.....all of the things that are so different than anyone else that should be celebrated.

If we are to change anything let it be that we have more appreciation for the good things in our lives. 

If we are to be a happier world let us see the good everywhere.

If we are to change our lives for the better let us love ourselves for who we are for each of us is unique and one of a kind.

If we are to know peace and joy we must be happy with all that we are and not try to fit in with anyone else's idea of who we should be........of anyone else's idea of how we should act.......of anyone else's idea of where we should be at this point in our lives.

Ask yourself this: Am I making resolutions because that is what is expected of me not what makes me happy?

Here is what you can list to start this New Year: 

  • What you love about yourself.
  • All that you have.
  • Everything you have accomplished.
  • How much you have grown as a person.
  • All of the knowledge and experience you have gathered.
  • Every positive relationship you have.

You can add anything else you feel has blessed your life this past year. Make your list to fit who you are because no one is going to have one like yours..... we are all so different.

There is no wrong way to make your list so have at it and start your year with the joy of who you are.....celebrate what you have accomplished so far.......appreciate all that you your life and live it to the fullest.

Many Blessings to All

Tuesday, October 22, 2019

Being Unhappy

Being Unhappy

Unhappiness can become a habit. We embrace it like we want it and can't live without it. Why is that do you suppose? Why do you think we talk about unhappy situations which in turn keeps them alive and well in our hearts and mind? What is it about being unhappy that could possibly make us thrive?

One of the reasons we would like to stay in this paticular time and place of unhappiness is that we are afraid to move forward. We don't want a change in our lives or we can't seem to figure out which change we want. It also shows us that we want everything to change and be the way we want it to be instead of it being as it should be.

I would ask you why you would want to hug close to you an unhappy event or situation that is certainly not doing your beautiful spirit any good and not allowing you to live a life that is centered around you and what you want sothat you can be happy.

Are you clinging to the past? Are you not letting go of a time when you thought it was the best time of your life? I would say this to do you know it is the best time of your life if you stopped allowing good times to happen for you because you are stuck in a time warp and not able to have new experiences that could show you just how great life can be?

Are you unhappy in your present circumstances and being unhappy you only focus on what is wrong and what you you don't like thus not allowing for solutions or ways to move forward happen for you?

When our focus in on total unhappiness........when we are stuck talking about the same old issue......when we are lost in what was......when we can't see any hope for what is ahead we are in a holding pattern of sheer negativity that is costing us the joyful and happy experience of life. If you pay close attention you will see that the same things you are unhappy about keep coming into your life because that is all your focus is.

How many days......months......years......has this cost you? How many days and nights of feeling bad.....being surrounded by such dismal ideas and thoughts.?

I would challenge you today to start on a new path of thinking. One that centers on caring for yourself....... by looking around you and inside of you and seeing the beauty. Making a point of noticing everything that brings you a good feeling.......everything that has been there but you have not paid attention to. 

Let your idea of life become wanting to see the positive........let your thoughts and feelings be on what is right about you and your life......most of all stop the loop of negativity and begin a new and positive train of thought.

Love yourself enough to understand that each moment in our lives is precious and should be lived in beauty and of of ready to move forward for your greater good. 

Watch as you let go of unhappiness and are ready for new horizons which appear quickly and with ease because you are allowing the positive and happy to be dominant in your thoughts and feelings.

Many Blessings to All

Sunday, May 5, 2019

Worry is a Thief

When we allow worry to consume our lives we are cheating ourselves of any quality of life. We are letting it steal our well-being .......our comfort......our peace of mind.

When our focus is on problems of any kind whether present or those we perceive to be coming we are using all of our energy in such a negative way it is impossible to feel good.

There are so many reasons to remember why we don't need to worry and we should also realize that by worrying we are bringing more of the same because this is where our focus is so positive things can't make their way through.

Here are a few things to focus on instead of worry:

  • Solutions.
  • Remembering times when everything worked out.
  • All the positives you have going right now.
  • Stop trying to control everything.
  • Perfection is a health hazard.
  • See your life in the best possible light.

When you focus on the positive and what solutions are possible you open your heart and mind to new ideas and new ways to figure anything out. Once you start doing this ideas come forward and they just tumble one over the other. It is also a way to lift your spirits and see a brighter path.

In your lifetime you have overcome many things. Take the time to remember how things worked out for you in the past. When you are doing this remember the times they worked out even better than you expected and in a totally different way which was how they were suppose to be instead of what you wanted them to be. Expect the solution but don't try to force it.

Focus on what is going right in your life. For whatever reason we have a habit of zeroing in on the negative which fuels worry and fear. Let go of this focus and turn it to what is positive about who you are and where you are and what you are doing. You will find there is much more of those things if you look for them.

Stop trying to control every situation. If you do and allow things to just flow the answers you are looking for will appear......the solutions you are seeking will will see progress in a positive way when you just give it all up and trust that it is going to work out. When you try to control it you are giving only one way for to be solved.....let to and just let it work the way it takes the stress out of it doesn't it.

Being perfect is so is really not natural. We are all imperfect people so just run with that. Being all things to all people has to go along with trying to make everything perfect all of the time. Life is just not this way ........let it be as it is and let yourself be.......this is the greatest gift you can give to you and everyone around you.

Visualize your life in a way that is beautiful.......recognize the beauty in it right now.......make your conversations about what you you want it......see these things will find that you have a treasure trove of these thoughts stored inside of you.......see and feel them.......believe me if we weren't suppose to use our imagination we wouldn't have one in the first place. Use this as a springboard for the days ahead.....appreciating what is already gone right in your life and seeing in your mind's eye what you want ahead makes for an amazing experience called life.

This is about you so make it that are either sinking into a very unhappy place with the negativity of worry and fear the joy of life being stolen from you........or you are in charge of seeing life in a brighter and more meaningful way by seeing all the positives behind you the now.......and in the days ahead.

Your thoughts are your power ........use them wisely.

Many Blessing to All

Sunday, April 21, 2019

The Beauty in Life

There are so many things in life that make it beautiful. Life is a gift to be enjoyed be lived in a happy and content manner. We as humans tend to complicate it much more that we should. 

I would challenge you to start looking for the beauty in your life. Once you start you will be amazed at what you find and how you feel.

What if you began by looking at nature all around you. There in itself is unbelievable beauty if we take the time to really pay attention. 

  • Plants
  • Animals
  • Trees
  • Birds
  • Flowers
The list is endless if we just look and admire.

When you are taking in all the beauty of nature breathe in and out and relax.......let the experience not only uplift you but relax beautiful is that. What if we let go of noticing what was wrong with our surroundings and honed in on what was right. Negativity would never overcome beauty if we did this.

What if you looked inside at all of your wonderful attributes.

  • Love
  • Kindness
  • Compassion
  • Joy
  • Peace
  • Humor
These are a foundation of beauty if you shine the light on them and use them fulfilling is that. What if we stopped be hard on ourselves and finding fault within.
Negativity about who we are would cease and life would be brighter.

What if you looked for the beauty in others. Just one positive thing about a person makes a difference.

  • Their smile
  • Their laugh
  • Their unique personality.
These are a cornerstone to sharing joy.

What if we stopped judging others.......we have no idea what is going on in their lives. Everyone has the right to live life as they wish and they should as we are all snowflakes on of a kind.

Letting go of negative thoughts of others would start a world wide change.

If you stop watching the news and let go of the need to know all that is going on you will find your thought process makes a change for the better. If you are searching for news try to find all of the positive things that are going on in your town.....your state......your country.....the world. There is so much more good going on than bad......change your focus so that you can see the beauty in the world. Find the stories of people helping each other......the planet......any story that shows compassion and kindness. You will find that when you start looking there are far more good stories than changes your mindset to know so much good is going on around you.

What if you lived each moment looking for the beauty in life. Wouldn't it make each day an adventure.

We can choose our path in life and we do by using our thoughts and feelings. Making a habit of seeing beauty everywhere is a way to not only be happier but to make each day bright and uplifting for our greater good.

May you all practice finding the beauty in your life for there is so much to see.

Many Blessing to All

If you would like a daily positive idea go to my Facebook page "It's Not About Age It's About Attitude"  I post everyday something daily I hope helps everyone use their thoughts wisely.

Saturday, March 23, 2019

It's All About You

It is strictly human nature to think that we need so many things in our lives to be happy. We seem to constantly search for those things to fill our lives with what we think we need for this to become reality for us.

Here is the rub of it all can we add to our lives when happiness does not exist inside of us right here and now.

If we think that we need things or people to be happy there is not the foundation of happiness to build on yet. It really has to start within us and radiate out not begin on the outside and work its way in.

If we are saying to ourselves if only I had:

  • A relationship.
  • A new car.
  • More money.
  • A better job.
  • A better place to live.
  • And so on.........

If we do not have joy inside of us......if we cannot find peace and happiness by our just being ourselves and seeing the beauty and the most positive things about our lives can we ever find it by adding more people......things......places?

All of the things we add we would expect joy from and this is not fair to those people.....places.....and things  because our mindset would be the same before they were part of our lives as happiness only comes from inside......from self.....from finding the joy in everything that already exists for us and using those things as a focal point to really feel happy.

It never works to add to our lives when we do not know the joy of who we are and what we already have.

By learning to depend on ourselves for care it opens a whole new world for us. When we stop finding fault with who we are........when we understand that we do have a beautiful spirit which depends on us finding the happiness in our lives by allowing it to shine from the inside and go forward with the knowledge that we are in fact finding all of the things in life and ourselves that are positive a foundation does in fact begin to build.

When we stop limiting ourselves by seeing only what we feel we don't have......what is missing.......these thoughts only bring unhappiness and also bring a pattern of constant negativity that hurts our spirit and does not allow us to go forward but truly holds us in the same spot like a hamster on a wheel repeating the same unhappy experiences all of the time.....using the same idea over and over that if there were more we would enjoy life......when in reality we must be content in the moment and get off of the wheel and appreciate all that is right in our lives......then we move forward and things do change for the better just by changing the thought pattern to positive.

If we do not love ourselves first.......if we do not believe we are worthy of good things......then we are defeating our own happiness. 

Believe in yourself........see every good thing about you.......shine a light on all of your wonderful traits........your accomplishments.........your personality........all that is you.

Life is so much easier when we define our own happiness.......when we find all the things to be happy about and build on those......when we let go of the thought of lack of anything and enjoy what is plentiful and around us right now.

Be your own best all that you are in a way that brings out the best thoughts and feelings about you and your life and the life around you.

See the good everywhere and keep that pathway open to more and more of the same coming to you. The more your intent is to see what is positive in your life the more positive things come to you.

It is all about you and you must be the focus of your own happiness by acknowledging what you do have......that you are special......that life is good.

Many Blessings to All