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Monday, August 20, 2018

Conversations About Yourself


You know these conversations........the one you have in your head and the one's you have with other people that amazingly enough are almost always critical.

Working with clients I have found that people would rather tell you about all their mistakes.......all of their shortcomings......all of their imperfections in conversations about themselves.

Why do you think we have started such a bad habit?

These are some examples of the negative thinking we use on ourselves:


  • When we look in the mirror we look with a critical eye.
  • When we think of the past we almost always look back at what went wrong or what we did wrong.
  • When we talk about ourselves we almost always are negative about our appearance or our circumstances.
  • When we talk about our relationships we almost always talk about what is wrong with them first.


These are habits that can be broken and what a huge and positive beginning when this happens!

Always remember that you are in charge of who you are right now and when you let go of the present negativity along with the past negativity you are creating a journey that is filled with self-love and appreciation.

Here are ways to begin the habit of positive thinking about you and your life: 


  • See everything positive about your appearance. 
  • When a past mistake pops into your head just think blah...blah...blah until it passes. (You may laugh but believe me it works!)
  • When you are talking about your life to someone else make sure it the conversation is about what is going right and the most positive things you can think of.
  • Always remember our relationships are what we think they are and how we speak about them.


Use your powerful thoughts about everything in the positive. When you are thinking about yourself......your life.....your relationships......your career.......your family.......use only the best thoughts. When you do this not only do you lift your spirit and feel better you create more and more of the same things you think about.

Our thoughts have so much energy why not use them for the best and brightest life possible.

It is up to you how you want your thinking habit to go forward........create amazing results by changing it for the better.

Many Blessings to All
Sue


Tuesday, June 5, 2018


Sense of Self


Do you take the time to just find a quiet place and tune into your sense of self? Do you take the time to actually feel who you are and reach the beautiful spirit that makes you sparkle and shine?

Why wouldn’t we want to be in touch with all that we are? It gives us such a boost and a feeling of control if we practice just being.

Most of the time we are involved with thinking and worrying and projecting. This makes life about problems……. the past……and what is going to happen in the future. If we are to live life to the fullest we must let go of this thought process and adapt ourselves to being in the here and now.

When we let negative thoughts take over and control our life then we are not taking care of ourselves the way we should. Negativity is so easy to fall into yet so destructive to our well-being.

What if we grounded ourselves daily with being in the moment…….clearing our mind……..feeling the beauty of self and the force within.

Here are the steps you can take to achieve this sense of self:
  • Find a place you have complete quiet for a few moments.
  • Sit and breathe deeply in and out slowly focusing on each breath in and out.
  • Your mind will clear as you focus on your breathing and this is what you want to happen.
  • Clearing your mind and sitting breathing in and out you are most certainly in the moment.
  • Feel how free you are in mind and body.
  • Feel in the very center of you the divine feeling of your spirit.
  • Pay attention to this feeling as it is your sense of self and who you are.
  • Feel the beauty of self and feel your energy within.
  • Keep your focus on your beautiful energetic spirit for as long as you want to.
  • Breathing in and out and feeling your power you are in the moment without any other thoughts to distract you.


Isn’t it an amazing feeling to be in the moment and not allow any thoughts to intrude on your spirit so that you can feel the power of who you are.

Do this for at least 10 minutes or longer if you wish to. Being centered and feeling so connected is important because then you can be in control of thoughts you wish to have and let go of those you do not.

Why not make a habit of this during the day? You have started the day with a quiet spot and your focus within why not when thoughts tend to overtake you revert right back to that place of being in the moment and not allowing anything to take away the peaceful and joyful way it makes you feel. 

You don’t have to stop and go somewhere quiet as you do when you start the day……..just say to yourself these thoughts are not what I want for myself and take yourself within to your sense of self.

Enjoy your surroundings without any negative thoughts about it ……..just enjoy the beauty you see.

Living life does not mean being you have to be in turmoil……….it means to truly live in the moment and if those moments are those of your choosing by not allowing negative thoughts overtake you life becomes so much more satisfying……..it will change your well-being for the better when you choose to focus on your sense of self and your beautiful spirit.

Many Blessings to All
Sue

Sunday, April 15, 2018

Inner Strength


“It's essential you create a fiery will from within--harness that power of decisiveness--and choose to be your strongest self.” ― Karen Salmansohn

Each one of us has an inner strength.......sometimes we discount it because we allow worry and fear to become a larger factor at times and it seems that negativity is the only situation we find ourselves in. 

Believe me when I tell you that when you are focused on all that is wrong you feel weak and helpless. You are not looking for any positive outcomes but are zeroing in on all that is not right in your life. It is a snowball effect because then you incorporate everything negative about your what is going on with you and your life.

Inner strength is the ability to see what is right.......to see a direction to take or an outcome to take advantage of.

So many times you don't give yourself credit for inner strength.......you discount how many times you have used it........  if you only take a look at your life and remember the times when you took charge worked it all out with a sense of control you will find that more times than not you did have the inner strength to do it.

We all have the voices.......one that says I can and one that says I can't.......the one that says I can has more power because it feels right ........it feels good.......it is the direction to take because when you have this feeling your inner strength is at work. Don't allow the negativity of I can't become a part of who you are because you are so much more than that.

Focus on the times you have worked things out.......made things happen......showed confidence......you have used your inner strength for your greater good many times.

Your inner strength along with a positive outlook brings you solutions if you open your mind. Using both of these will become a habit which empowers you to go through life in a decisive way.

Here are some affirmations that will help you when you need them:


  • "My inner strength is part of who I am and is always there for me to use."
  • "I can be strong and desisive when I need to be."
  • "My inner strength has served me well in my lifetime."
  • "I don't have to be fearful because I have inner strength to help my solve issues."


Love yourself........rely on yourself........know you are in charge of your life. Remember what happens in your life is challenging and an adventure and you can make it the most positive of experiences when you use the world "I can!". 

Many Blessing to All
Sue

Saturday, February 10, 2018

To Be Complete


Just think about this for a moment.........

If you don't love yourself how can you expect someone else to do it for you?

Here are some reason's why we feel we need someone in our lives:


  • To be complete.
  • To not be alone.
  • To fit in with society.
  • To fill a void.
  • To be needed.


These are just a few reasons we have been using over many generations some have been taught and some we have added on our own.

Well here is a big news flash for everyone!

You are already complete........see yourself this way........don't see a fractured person but a beautiful spirit that shines brightly. You are a wonderful person with many qualities that make you unique and special. Don't let your life become complicated by thinking that you need someone to make you a whole person.......you already are so love who you are without reservation or criticism. 

Love your own company........love being on your own doing things that make you feel good. If you love who you are first then you know the feeling and can share love with another......if you fill your life by doing things that bring you joy you find that being on your own is not only uplifting but peaceful.

Don't let anyone mold you into being something or someone you are not........you are special and when you acknowledge this and you recognize your own qualities then you are being true to yourself and this should be first and foremost.......don't live a life that belongs to someone else........live the one that is right for  you.......don't let society dictate your life.

You must be happy within that beautiful spirit of yours.........there is never a void when you fill your life with the things you like to do and surround yourself with people who you enjoy........fill your life with the things that make you happy so you don't have a void.......make a note of things that you enjoy doing and do them.........this is a choice you must make for yourself..... when you do you will find life becomes richer and more fulfilling.

The first need you must meet is to take care of yourself first.......what do you want for yourself.......you cannot and should not make anyone your first priority but you and know true happiness........this sounds selfish but it isn't really........if you are not happy how can anyone around you be happy.......if you are not fulfilled with the things  you want for yourself then joy escapes you. It is not your job to make the world happy .......it is your job to make yourself happy for your greater good.

In this life we have a standard that we must belong in a way that others dictate.......don't believe it......you only have to make yourself happy and do the things that bring you joy in all areas of your life........being a partner or a couple is not mandatory........like yourself enough to be in your own company and not be lonely.

Just picture if you will the world full of people who are not trying to please others........who are making their own lives their priority........who feel blessed and happy with who they are and what they have and what they are doing.........what freedom we would feel each one of us if we only let go of needing someone to make us complete and depended only on liking and loving who we are.

Two ways to look at life:

I love you because I need you.
I need you because I love you.

Be someone who loves themselves first..........who is independent and uses their thoughts in the most positive way........you will attract someone with the same ideas that will compliment you in so many areas of your life.

Many Blessings to All
Sue



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This book can be applied to any age and empower you as you age.

Monday, January 1, 2018

Sense of Self


"What I am looking for is not out there - it is in me." ― Helen Keller

This is a New Year and with it always comes resolutions ………things you feel you need to change to be better.

Why is it we are always looking at the outside of ourselves?

Why do we think that everything has to do with what we look like……. what we have…….where we live……what we do for a living……..all the trappings of life that we beat ourselves up about because we feel we are not up to what should be?

What if we freed ourselves from the habit of these ideas?

What if we decided to let go of anything we have been taught about being and doing and having and made up our own way of doing things?

What if we decided that this was the year to be who we are and do what feels right just for us?

What if we decided not to fit in to a pattern that is made for everyone when we are all so different with different ideas and thoughts?

Be true to yourself always and in this New Year become the person that is happy from the inside……. love who you are and what you think because this is how life becomes the way you wish it to be.

Here are some tips on how you can achieve a great sense of self:

  • Feel your way…….in other words if it doesn’t feel right to you no matter what others say do what does feel right.
  • Don’t say yes when you really don’t want to………. use the word no more often………you will free yourself so much doing this.
  • Put yourself first……..sometimes you may think this is difficult but when you do you will find that life lightens up and you then are ready to do what you need to but at your own pace and in your own time…….the stress of trying to please others constantly does not serve your well-being in the least.
  • Accept who you are……..there is no one else like you………flaws and strengths………love and laughter…….all the things that make up you………don’t wish your life away trying to measure up to anyone else……..you are special and you need to acknowledge this constantly…….don’t expect or need it from anyone else but yourself.
  • Live in the moment and make your moments count……..you have accomplished so much in your life so far ……….focus on those things and expect more and more as you follow your path........be your own cheerleader.
  • Be comfortable in your own skin.......don't try to duplicate someone else's life.......make your own comfortable style and environment to accomodate all that you are.

All of this comes from the inside………all of this comes from a wonderful sense of self………if you are doing this already good for you……..keep it up and make it stronger than ever………if you are not…….start with this new year to form a wonderful sense of self…….from the inside ………..this is where your power lies and can be used every single day if you choose to do it.

Rely on yourself for your own happiness………..don’t fit into a mold someone else thinks you should……..be an individual with great expectations for an adventure that will blossom with every positive thought you can use.

Here is an affirmation to use: “I love who I am and the adventure that is waiting for me.”

May your New Year be all you want it to be and more!

Many Blessings to All
Sue




Sunday, September 3, 2017

  • What is Your Big Picture?

 Have you ever considered that you are the one who has the control over your own big picture? 

Have you ever thought about excluding everyone but yourself from that picture so you can begin to create it the way you would like it to be without any outside interference?

The fact that this is your journey and you are making your way the very best you know how…….why not begin a strategy that brings you what you have in mind for your life.

If you were to close your eyes and bring an image of what would make your life happy what would it be? 

Always remember it is you who must be happy…….no one else can do this for you……happiness starts within ones self.......no person ......place ......or thing can do this for you .....your bright and beautiful spirit must be happy first.

There are many scenarios that you may have that you feel bring happiness:
  • Money
  • Home
  • Relationships
  • Health


These are quite common for everyone but what about a deeper more satisfying feeling about life? 

What about peace and harmony and joy? 

What about grounding ourselves by really appreciating what we do have plus who and what we are?

What if your images that you brought up to create a big picture were those of laughter and joy……..of things that would make your heart happy.

What if you took mental snapshots of your life in all the positive ways you are living and doing things right at the present moment?
What if you appreciated the funds you do have coming to you at the present time and picture them growing larger?


What if you enjoyed everything about the home you have now and focus on all of its attributes while envisioning whereelse you might like to reside.


What if you were thankful about the health you do have at this moment…….for every part of your body that feels good……using your focus to help your body be in the best of health.


Sometimes we get so far ahead of ourselves in what we want in life that we fail to address the fact that we already have so much in material goods and even more importantly daily doses of love.

Sometimes we are so busy looking forward that we don’t live in the moment and those moments then get away from us to enjoy.

This is the time to stop and understand that your big picture is now……it is how you are thinking and feeling and what you do with each moment. These moments are your life.

Remember you are making memories to have along your journey and the most fulfilling are those based on love and joy.

Why not just be……..why not just breathe and be focused on each day ………….why not just clear your mind and then look for the beauty around and within you?

If you are so busy with looking at others……. listening to others…….reacting to others…….then your big picture is not yours is it?

The picture you are creating and the images you bring up in your mind should be of you and no one else……this is how you make the big picture just like you want it to be.

Here are some things you can incorporate when envisioning a big picture:
  • Being yourself.
  • Having your own opinion.
  • Doing what makes you happy.
  • Seeing yourself in the most positive way.
  • Always seeing the best things happening for you.
When you incorporate these things into your big picture you cannot help but find the peace and joy that is truly yours every day……..you start to notice that life is really quite good after all.

Isn’t this everyone’s main goal in life?

Let go of the thought of lacking anything and embrace the thought that there is already so much you do have……..and even more that you can by acknowledging abundance.

Gratitude creates the most beautiful picture of all.

Many Blessings to Everyone!
Sue


Monday, July 10, 2017

Letting Go of Drama


Drama: any situation or series of events having vivid, emotional, conflicting or striking interest or results.

We have so much drama in the world today......sometimes in our family.....sometimes in your relationships......sometimes in our workplace.....there is some kind of drama somewhere around us.

It seems that people love drama and love to incite reactions as much as they can.

I would like to say that when you are involved in any dramatic event .....someone who has issues that bring you on board.......someone who is angry continually and vents so you tune in.......someone who brings constant negativity around you......events that are completely out of your control......this is the time to step back and take issue with what you are allowing into your personal space.

These aspects of life the questions begs to be asked: How did I get here and why do I want to participate?

Living someone else's drama is a choice and one that you must look at in terms of how it is affecting your own life.


  • If you are allowing yourself to be caught up in someone else's story what is happening to yours?
  • If you are using your focus on someone else's problems big or small how are you taking care of your own well-being?
  • If you are using all of your energy to try and figure out solutions for other's issues what is becoming of your own journey?
  • If you let your emotions ride someone else's roller coaster where does that leave you emotionally?


The best thing you can do for yourself so that you are on a positive and peaceful path is to choose not to participate in anyone else's drama.

Here are some things that you can choose to not participate in:
Arguments of any kind.
Sad stories told over and over again.
Anything that has to do with the state of the world......country.....city.
The ups and downs of someone else's relationship.

I am sure you have your own experiences which came to mind to add to this list so you know the issues you can choose not to participate in.

Drama is a stress attractor and since this is what you are trying to avoid in life the choice is not to be a part of an on-going drama.

If you are being overly dramatic about something or someone take stock of the situation and ask yourself what you are so emotional about regarding the situation.

  • Could you calm down and see it in a different way.
  • Can you just let go.
  • Can you take it less personally.


Think about not being in a dramatic frame of mind because you can see life so much more clearly when you are not.

I know that reading this several scenarios popped into your mind.......yep......those are the ones you need to let go of and not allow into your day to day thoughts.......those are the ones that are a negative factor and need to be changed so that your life can be as you want it to be without anything holding you back from being as happy as you want to be.

If you wanted to be an actor or actress you would have moved to Hollywood......make sure that the drama in your life is minimal and you choose not to join in the lives of anyone or anything who brings this stressful action around you.

Many Blessings to All
Sue



Friday, June 9, 2017

Clearing Your Mind


Do you start your day with a head full of thoughts that have you scrambling around .......worrying about what is going to happen in the day.......what you may have to deal with in your personal and professional life.......making it so you are already stressed or upset?

I would ask you how you could expect the day to be calm and easy.....for things to flow...... if you are already on tilt.....if you have projected problems and scenarios that haven't happened yet but have you uptight and imaging all sorts of things that could go wrong?

Just think of yourself projecting a movie on a screen with your thoughts......what kind of day are you creating.....is it one you want to experience........what would the movie look like if you were to show it just as you are seeing and feeling it in your mind right then?

Remember this is your personal space......the place where you want calm and peace and joy......the place that you actually make it the way it is by the how you think and feel....if you begin your day waking and already projecting the worst case scenario (which is a habit by the way).......you defeat what you truly want for yourself in your life.

So here is how you can bring ease into the day.......to yourself .......and start your day with the best feeling.

When you wake up clear your mind.......completely clear it of everything.......whether you are lying in bed or sitting in a chair.......take a deep breath and let it out.......take another one and hold it and when you let it out slowly feel yourself relax .......you can also feel the way your body and mind respond.

Just pay attention to your breathing......in and out and nothing else.

Take several breaths and you will feel yourself completely relaxing.......your mind completely clear.......and you will recognize the feeling of total focus on yourself........it is so liberating to just be.

When you are relaxed and are breathing in a rhythm of in and out imagine words in your thoughts:

Easy
Calm
Stress-free
Adventure
Love
Peace

Add your own words......one that feel good to you.......if you have one word that makes you feel the best just use it over and over breathing in and out and using the word.

It is all of  these positive things you want in your day.......expect them.......remember you are in control of thoughts and feelings so use only the ones that help you to feel great.

You can also use this exercise during the day when you may be feeling overwhelmed......just stop pay attention to your breathing and clear you mind........then use your words to uplift and help you to feel your well-being restored.

This is your journey everyone.......you have the ability to clear your mind and go forward anytime you want to feel calm and peaceful.......do it and you will find that things just ease up and your frame of mind will be amazing.

There is harmony in life with who you are and how you want to feel........use your powerful ability to clear your mind and be in a place where you know all is well because you can feel it.

Many Blessing to All
Sue